Be Content With Yourself

Being happy is something everyone wants in their life. But not everyone could be happy all the time and is this really a problem? No, because we are all humans we have feelings that wouldn't allow us to be happy all the time, which is perfectly normal of course.

One thing that could make us happy in life is by being content with ourselves. When you're content with yourself, you will need no specific reasons to become happy. And thus replicate your mental health positively. Because being happy or having a good mental health is the greatest priority our life which many people fail to recognize.

Something that I have read everywhere and actually experienced in my life is that, you cannot always keep a happy positive mind every time. There would be situations or points in life when you would just break down or become completely down. And you 'd think to yourself, "Why? why me?"

But if you overcome it and come back to that happy state again, then you'd find yourself getting a message or a lesson that would help you in life later. And then you'd think, this was all a part of learning in life. So basically, "what doesn't kill you makes you stronger" as someone wise has quoted.

Being happy with our life and with our self is the greatest solution for us to attain that sound and happy life. Most importantly be happy with yourself. Make each day a great adventure for you and stop thinking that some things or some people would only make your life happy.

No that's not how it should be. People are there with us for a reason and yes, feel blessed to have them but stop attaching your happiness to them. Stop expecting so much from them so that you'd hurt yourself in the end when they don't meet your expectations.

And stop thinking of the material things that you don't have in your life so excessively. Nothing could actually make you happy if you are that type of a person who's attached to material possessions because even if you have gained them for yourself, you wouldn't be satisfied because by that moment you would have already got another material on your wish list.

Its perfectly human to wish and expect for things but when you are too much attached, that won't be a good idea. I have heard people saying or complaining of the things they want or achieve and affirming that they won't be happy until they get it.

And then there are some others who expects favors or deeds from others and believe that without "such and such" people in their life, they wouldn't be happy. I have been there too but I have realized and is still realizing the fact that this is a really wrong mentality.

So what happens to people like that is that when they fail to achieve something or get the thing that they want, they would loose their mind and becomes dissatisfied. And the people who have attached their happiness to other people? They would get hurt like anything when their loved ones wouldn't live or do according to what they have expected them to be and there goes their happiness too.

If you could focus on yourself more , this could be changed and finally you'll be the creator of your joy in life. Some thing that you could do are given below:


#1 Practice non detachment: Detach yourself from people materials and certain expectations. This would itself relieve that tension hanging down your shoulders. Materials are just materials and people are human beings with human abilities. Stop expecting healing energy or too much comfort from them.

#2 Improve yourself: 

Always try to improve your life by doing things. Like go for a walk..read books (I would advice you to read self help books because they could actually enlighten you), exercise, learn something, develop a skill etc. You have to first look into your life and find out what you could be improved and work on it. This will keep you busy too, thus improving the mind and removing clogging thoughts.

#3 Smile: 

Who needs pills when just smiling could cure your woes? Always believe that even a smile could make you happy. All you have to do is smile and think about all the happy things that you have created in your life( Only think about your goodness, your achievements and good deeds) and be proud and happy for the person you have grown into.

#4 Stop expecting so much:

I know this is a really difficult thing because we all do this every time and get our hearts broken.Stop expecting so much from others and from life. You can only make yourself happy.As I have said above, no human can always make you happy and no material things or possession could make you happy. In fact we'd develop worrying habits and may even go into depression if our expectation are too high.

#5 Make this your daily thought:

"Only I can make my life happy. 

And I have attracted people, luck and materials into life because I have allowed it to and they are all there to supplement my happiness and they are not the reason for my entire well being" 

#6 Take care of yourself: 

Take care yourself and I have already written a post on self love and its importance and that would include taking care of ourselves. Do things that would help you glow, and eat healthy to glow inside out. Don't take situations too personally and punish yourself by not taking care of yourself. Because bad vibes only attracts bad vibes.


#7 Do things that you love: 

 Like drawing,dancing, travelling, listening to music or gardening. Maybe try new things and add flavor to your life. Even you could change your life by leaving those monotonous habits behind and experimenting things.


#8 Radiate love and happiness: 

After doing all those things above and finally you are content your life, you'd finally find yourself light and relieved. And as you would feel good, you would attract more happiness in your life and the things that worried you will fade away. You will find them either unimportant or all fixed by this time and then you could could say,"I am the creator of my happiness". This is not even a tip and it's something that would come along.

We are all on this path of healing and understanding life and its never too late to change our life. its okay to fall sometimes but remember to get up and build  a stronger you with every fall. Make the most out of your life with whatever you are offered and be content with yourself. Everything else would just fall in place eventually.

Stay Happy Ya'll!! Much love to everyone!!

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A Fun Way To Create Self Love

We all have dealt with low self esteem and aversion towards ourselves in our life. It could be because we feel that we are not good enough or because we believe that other  people have it better than us, heck!! it could be anything! Being negative about oneself is really easy actually! But being positive about oneself even when there's a lot of bad situations going on...well, that would require a lot of self love and confidence! 

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Self love does not mean being egoistic or self centered, it means that we know ourselves much better than anyone else so that we would never allow any external energy to bring that image down. We know what we deserve and we create our inner positive world. Its like knowing oneself and loving for what one is in this life.

Being a person who have struggled through low self esteem and finally tackled it, I really know how hard it is to love oneself when you have so much negative thoughts in your mind about yourself. Its really difficult especially since there are a lot many people out there that constantly brings you down and our poor mind starts to believe every negative comments that we get.

I have learnt that what we think and what we perceive is all our own faults! Its all in your mind...I repeat...ITS ALL IN YOUR MIND!!

We think a lot daily...and what thoughts that consume our mind most would determine what kind of attitude we have. If your feed your mind with positivity, you would have a positive attitude and if its the negative comments and feelings that we focus on, then we are doomed with a negative attitude. And by this I mean a negative feeling towards oneself and this is enough to destroy your happiness!

So how to stop this is and start loving yourself? The answer is really simple...just start believing that you are worthy and you are nothing less than anyone in this world! Just start believing in yourself and tell yourself everyday that you are worthy of your love and you yourself deserves your love more than anyone else.

And when you start believing this..that's when the magic happens! You will start feeling right..you will stop worrying..you will feel so good about yourself that no negativity surrounding you would affect your mind and that's the power of affirmations!

Your vibe attract your tribe. When you feel positive, you'd start to attract postive people into your life too and that's a really great development because your positive vibes would always be maintained with the company of your positive tribe!

Easy as it may seem, it could be impossible for many who starts doing it. And this uneasiness could be tackled by one fun activity. Read below for the fun tip:

#Creating An Affirmation Jar

Affirmations helps you to think more positively about yourself and its a really easy way to build up positive mind and soul. Speaking to yourself about how good you are and how blessed you are is actually the gist of affirmations. But if you could write it all down and read it aloud daily, it could be more fun and effective.

The pictures shown above and below are of my affirmation cup (I thought the cup was enough for putting them) and I keep it on my table so that I would always see it. I take cards out whenever I feel like and would definitely lift me up.

 So all you gotta do is to write some affirmations in a colored paper or any paper of your choice. Make sure that the papers are thick enough so that it wouldn't tear in the long run and also it should be of the size of a visiting card.

Then write down affirmations such as "I am confident in myself and my abilities" "Today is my best day" "My inner world and outer world is both beautiful" etc. You can google certain affirmations or make yourself some and write about 50 of it at least.

And put this all in a jar or a cup or anything you prefer. You could write more later and make your affirmations jar full.

Every morning after waking up, pick two or three of your affirmation cards from the jar randomly and say it aloud to yourself. Do this everyday and you would feel that the affirmations are actually true. This would increase your positive energy which would eventually make your life better.

In this way you have to talk to yourself lovingly everyday and this is the only way to create self love and trust me, when you start loving yourself better, nothing would bring you down. You will start feeling confidence and do better.

You would no longer get hurt easily by anyone's negative comment. You would not allow yourself to think badly of yourself again. And you will start to protect your soul from every bad vibes because you know that you are bad-ass person getting your together!

You will feel more beautiful and wouldn't want anyone else's appreciation to feel good about yourself! You as a whole is enough for you to feel happy and conquer this world and all you have to do is to start believing it!

So follow this tip if you are really serious about feeling good and making your life better. It's really worth it! Stay happy ya'all!!! And always remember..you are worthy and you are loved!